"Love and compassion are necessities not luxuries. Without them, humanity can not survive."
Here you will find articles about the journey towards living whole-hearted lives.
We can have so many hopes for a New Year and set admirable resolutions- however, we often find ourselves very quickly in the familiar unwanted territory as addiction is immune to the restart of our calendar. We can end up feeling overwhelmed, powerless and frustrated on a daily basis fighting with each other and ourselves and as the new year continues on we can be left feeling as though nothing will ever change. The one thing we can begin to change however is our minds. We have thousands of thoughts per day, most are not accurate and many are negative…Read More
Well we are a few days away from Christmas day and I wanted to touch base with you all to see how your Christmas lead up is going. How are you? I realise that I cannot hear your answer but you can take a moment to really reflect on the answer to this question: How am I doing? Christmas is, of course, different for everyone and every family. For a family living with addiction, however, it can be tainted with ‘the nightmares of Christmas past’ and hold anxiety on what this year will bring. Christmas often involves expectations that can lead…Read More
What is an addiction? This is not an easy question to answer. Family members often seek the answer to this or arrive at a personal understanding of addiction. Our experience of living with a substance using loved one of course impacts and shapes our view of addiction. I have witnessed misunderstandings that cause blame, unjustified stigma, fragmented relationships, and ultimately suffering. What is your view of addiction? Does it help or hinder your relationship with your loved one? Take a moment to consider the stigma perhaps within yourself, or that you have experienced within your family or society as a…Read More
The question I am most frequently asked in my role is “How do I get my loved one to change, to stop their use? How can I fix them? … I need to fix them… make them stop…” This desperation and motivation to do whatever it takes to change and fix the person they love is really common in the people my work brings me into contact with. I have witnessed family members gradually become healthier and happier by 1 simple but difficult change- shifting the focus off their loved one and on to themselves. I had one lady recently…Read More